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Redistribute Cleaning Chores During Pregnancy

By on May 14, 2017

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There are household chores which are dangerous for pregnant women and should be implemented by someone else. As a matter of fact most household tasks can be risky for the mother and the child before giving birth and can lead to doing this prematurely. The chores presented here you should avoid while you are expecting to protect you and your baby’s health. Delegate the presented below to the members of your family to keep your home tidy and hygienic.

Mopping and Vacuum Cleaning

These chores can deteriorate sciatica which is a painful soreness of the sciatic nerve running from the lower side of the back to the entire leg. Sciatica is most commonly suffered during pregnancy because of the weight gain. All activities which make you bend forward can worsen it. It is estimated that although pregnant women can feel good while doing some domestic task, they often experience pains as a result of the efforts later. So, leave the vacuum cleaning and mopping of the carpets and floors to other member of your family and avoid leaning forward.

Bathroom Cleaning

The cleaning of the bathroom involves using of chemicals which pregnant women shouldn’t be exposed to or inhale. Even some essential oils can be bad for the health of the expecting mums. So, in case you decide to clean the bathroom, you better make your own cleaning preparations using safe ingredients like baking soda, lemon juice, white vinegar and others. As a rule if some detergent smells repulsive or contains chemicals you shouldn’t use it. It is recommended to delegate the bathroom cleaning to someone else.

Cleaning the Litter Box

This is another chore which you should avoid and leave for someone else to do. Cat faeces in the litter box can transmit to you and the foetus a dangerous infection which causes brain damage, vision loss and even kill the baby. Happy Cleaning Services Dulwich advises no matter what cleaning work you decide to do always make sure to wear gloves and protection mask on the mouth.

Cleaning Ceiling Fans and Hanging Curtains

As a rule you should avoid climbing and staying on high from the ground places risking your and your baby’s health. These chores which have risks for the mother to fall should be delegated to someone else. It is estimated that pregnant women’s centre of gravity changes and this makes them vulnerable to accidents and falls.

Doing the Laundry

If your doctor has advised you not to lift heavy items you shouldn’t do the laundry. A hamper weighs much and by lifting and carrying it to the terrace you can create to your body and the foetus problems. The results of doing this chore during pregnancy can be pre-term labour, high level of blood pressure and some other unpleasant health conditions.

Lifting and Carrying Heavy Loads

Your doctor should tell you how much weight you can carry safely so, adhere to his recommendations and advice. As the baby in your belly grows, your back experiences more pressure carrying more weight. You will strain you back and feel more uncomfortable if you carry heavy loads. So, avoid or be extra careful when carrying laundry baskets, vacuum cleaners and buckets.

During pregnancy you should avoid standing for too long, bending and climbing. As was explained above, these are risky for your health and the baby. Standing upright too long can harm you by creating high blood pressure, disrupting the blood flow, stress your body and create swollen feet.

The cleaning and household chores mentioned above should be avoided by pregnant women and should be provided by the other member of the family or a housemaid. Being exposed to chemicals and harsh products as well as doing risky activities are dangerous for the foetus and the mother.

I love any excuse to avoid housework.  Honestly, I will continue to deal with mopping and vacuuming, but bathroom scrub work will be delegated to the husband!  What chores did you continue to do and avoided doing while pregnant? Leave a comment and let me know!

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Fun Activities for National Pretzel Day

By on April 26, 2017
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Today is National Pretzel Day and all I can say is that they make a day for everything, don’t they.  In the spirit of National Pretzel Day, I have planned out a cute little itinerary for me and my daughter that you can definitely try, too.  I’m a bookworm and love cuddling up with my daughter and reading a book, so today we will read a fun little book that requires some problem-solving and munch on some sweet pretzel snacks.

Sweet Pretzel Snack Recipe

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This is a super easy snack to make and it doesn’t really need a recipe.  Since it’s so easy to make, a toddler can help make it with a little adult supervision.

Ingredients

  • a handful of pretzels
  • 1 cup of chocolate chips
  • Optional: toppings made from crushed Oreos or finely chopped peanuts

Recipe

  1. Place one cup of chocolate chips (milk or white works best for toddlers) in a bowl and microwave for two minutes.  The time will vary based on your microwave power.  Some will fully melt the chocolates in 30 seconds!  Mine takes two minutes.
  2. Dip the pretzels into the chocolate and roll it around in the bowl of toppings, if you have them.  If your toddler is helping, you can have her dip half the pretzel in chocolate. Half chocolate pretzels are pretty cool, too.  If you want to add the drizzled chocolate lines, you can scoop more melted chocolate into a small sandwich bag, cut a very tiny corner off, and squeeze out over the pretzels.
  3. Spread them on a plate and let them harden for 15 minutes in the refrigerator.  If you place the dipped pretzels on top of wax paper before letting them harden, it’ll be a whole lot easier to remove them from the plate.

Read Walter the Baker

Walter the Baker by Eric Carle is a fun little story to read on National Pretzel Day.  It’s a story about a baker who receives a challenge from the duke after he makes a mistake.  The challenge is to bake a roll that uses one piece of dough, but allows the sun to shine through three times.  Walter struggles to meet the challenge until he finally has a breakthrough.  This is a great story about not giving up, although I must say the personality of the duke is less than stellar.

Walter the Baker by Eric Carle

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What are some fun ways you are celebrating National Pretzel Day with your kids?  Leave a comment and share below!

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Pregnancy Week 5 in South Korea Versus America

By on April 24, 2017
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Quite recently, I wrote about how I scared myself with the term Second Infertility and how I was concerned by how long it’s been taking to get pregnant with my second child.  Well, this post isn’t a pregnancy announcement.  It’s just an “I missed my period!” announcement.  And I never miss a period.  I have not taken a pregnancy test yet, but is this pregnancy week 5?

My First Pregnancy Week 5

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When I was pregnant with my daughter, I was unaware of pregnancy week 5.  I didn’t even realize I completely missed my period until my husband asked.  When I told my husband I was a week late, he was very excited and immediately bought a pregnancy test.  I’ve read that pregnancy tests are most accurate if used in the morning when you wake up.  I guess this is because you haven’t put anything else into your body during a night of full rest.  I woke up with a sudden urge to pee around 3 AM and decided to try the test as my husband continued to sleep.

I was a jumble of emotions when I saw that the results were positive.  Could it be a false positive?  Were my eyes playing tricks on me during the bewitching hour of 3 AM?  We were newlyweds and I had just started a new job.  I didn’t feel ready to be a mom yet.  I woke my husband up and he was just elated.  He told everyone in his family as soon as it became a reasonable hour!  And this was before we even visited a doctor to check.

Being Pregnant in South Korea

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I got pregnant with my daughter while we were living in South Korea.  It was very easy to make an appointment with a doctor to get an ultrasound and check to see if I was indeed pregnant.  By this time, it was already past pregnancy week 5, but we got to hear a heartbeat.  At week 6, this was a very special moment.  I hadn’t realized a baby’s heart would already be formed and beating by this time!

Living in America now, I am a little unsure of how to proceed with this possible pregnancy.  I am pretty sure I am pregnant, even without taking a pregnancy test, because I never miss periods.  Do I need to have a positive pregnancy test before I can see a OB/GYN?

Health insurance in America is a lot trickier than the nationwide health coverage available in South Korea.  I will have to call around and ask if the doctor takes my insurance.  I also know that some doctors won’t take in new patients if they have reached their limit.  This was never an issue in South Korea.

Perks of Being Pregnant in South Korea

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  • South Korean government provided me with a special card value of 500,000 KRW (currently about $440) to help pay for health checkups that are not fully covered by insurance.  I managed to use it all within six months.
  • South Korean government provided me with folic acid and iron supplements to take during the first trimester at no additional cost.
  • Special priority seats for pregnant women to sit down in the subway or bus.  But, it’s hard to use these in the first trimester when you’re not really showing because people will judge you for using these seats when you’re “not pregnant”.  I had terrible morning sickness and still had to go to work using public transportation during rush hour.  I never got a seat during the first trimester, but as I started to show, some started offering me their seats.

I expect my experiences with a second pregnancy to be quite different because I am living in America now.  Just the prospect of having to find a OB/GYN who is recommended and available to take me in as a patient is overwhelming.  Even with this exciting development, I am still working on the Spring Cleaning Series.  My next step is cleaning out the bathroom, which is a guest post I wrote for Namaste and Eat Cupcakes.  Please drop by and leave a comment!  I will continue the series with organizing the bathroom on Her Life Is Love.

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To the recently pregnant and currently pregnant moms, please advise me on what I should avoid doing and eating as I have forgotten most of the information I read up on from my first pregnancy.  Leave a comment and let me know!

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8 Tips to Potty Training a Toddler

By on April 9, 2017
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There are two days during the week where I must leave the house with my daughter.  There’s Wednesday, where we go to Toddler Class in the morning, and Sunday, where we go to church.  I read a lot of books, blog posts, and magazine articles on potty training a toddler.  Most seem to support a three-day training regime where you have your child butt-naked the first day, wearing underwear the next, and then go out with pants on and say you have successfully potty trained your toddler.  They also warn not to go back to using diapers once you have started training.  Something about your toddler figuring out they can go back to diapers if they make you annoyed enough.

I have attempted potty training my daughter three separate times using this three-day training regime and failed each time because inevitably, a Sunday or a Wednesday will come around and I’d have to leave the house with my daughter in a diaper.  The “experts” recommend waiting a couple months before starting again.  I made it one of my goals in March to successfully potty train my daughter during Spring Break where I could have the whole week, starting Monday, to devote to potty training.  Of course, life happens, and we didn’t start until Thursday, despite having no Toddler Class that Wednesday.

This time, I didn’t give up and did it the way I felt was right and on day 10, we had gone one full day without any accidents!  My daughter is 28 months old and I can see a diaper-free future ahead of me.  Now, here are the things I’ve learned from our potty training adventures and wish other parents have told me.

Things to Know Before Potty Training a Toddler

I read a lot about how you should have you toddler choose the potty and don’t let it become a toy.  Vice versa, some would say you should let your toddler get used to seeing it around and sit in it.  I want to emphasize to you that there is no one right way.  Potty training a toddler seems like it is a daunting task mainly because you have to actively teach your child to use the potty and your child will have to learn to use the potty.

  1. Your child is ready for potty training when she is able to sing the ABC song.  I’ve read long lists of “signs that your toddler is ready to be potty trained” and they get pretty long.  I would find three or four signs that fit my child, a couple that might be true, and the rest not related to my kid at all.  I had a hard time deciding if the time was right or not.  Our pediatrician gave us a simple way to decide.  If your child can sing the entire ABC song, your child is developmentally ready to learn.
  2. Buy a simple potty chair.  

    This affordable potty chair from Summer Infant is highly recommended by many parents I know and I would have bought one if I hadn’t already bought a musical one.  I bought a fancy musical potty chair and regretted it as soon as we actually started potty training.  This chair (pictured in first Instagram photo at top) plays a musical fanfare whenever one pees or poops into the potty.  It might be the weight pushing the container down that triggers it.  Anyway, the first day where she peed in the potty, the musical fanfare played and it scared her.  Terrified her.  I found out potty training is scary for little ones.  Simple potty chairs that are easy to use and easy to clean are best.  No music and no lid.  Pee shield is up to you, but be aware that if your child tries to sit on the potty chair and ends up sitting on the pee shield, the pain could discourage her from trying to use the potty on her own again.
  3. Potty training a toddler is not a race.  Try not to compare with other toddlers.  I actually knew of several parents who potty trained their kid at 18 months or so and I felt the pressure!  Wait until your toddler is ready (ABC song!) and you are ready.  This is a joint operation.

Tips for Heading Outside the Home

Once your toddler has the hang of things and knows that peeing in underwear and peeing in pants both result in uncomfortable wetness, you might feel ready to venture outside the home.  Our first outing was to get groceries.  Then, we tried going to church.  Here are some tips that are helpful when taking a potty training toddler outside of the home.

  1. Try to encourage your toddler to use the potty before leaving the house.  It’s easier when you know your toddler is leaving the house on a fairly empty bladder.  Keep your first few outings short.  Less than an hour is ideal.  Right now, our longest has been two hours for church.
  2. Don’t stress if your toddler doesn’t go before you have to leave.  Just trust that your toddler is learning her body signals and will tell you when she has to go.  Hopefully she’ll signal with a fair amount of time before release.
  3. Bring along an extra pair of underwear, pants, and socks.  You’ll also want a plastic bag to hold soiled pants and underwear in.  Bring along post-its to cover the sensor for automatic flushes.  You don’t want that scaring your toddler while she’s trying an adult toilet in some strange, new place.
  4. The safe way to protect a car seat differs by manufacturer.  Frankly, it is unsafe to place anything between toddler and the car seat that didn’t come with the car seat.  I know of two car seat brands that provide products to protect the car seat from potty training accidents and have been tested for safety, but I do not own one.  As such, I do not use anything and hope for the best.  If a potty training accident occurs, wash the car seat fabric according to directions in the manual.  You do not want to compromise the safety of your child because you don’t want to clean up an accident in the car seat.  Disclaimer: I am not a certified car seat technician, so I recommend taking your questions to the Car Seat for the Littles Facebook Group.  There’s a separate group for the folks in the UK, since the laws are different.
  5. Bring the potty chair with you, if you can.  At least, bring it along in the beginning until your toddler can handle using an adult toilet at home.  Then, she will be able to handle the ones outside of the home better.  There are portable potty seats you can purchase, too, if you plan on keeping one in your car, stroller, or diaper bag.  Since our potty chair is rather clunky, I’m considering bringing around a potty seat you insert on top of the adult toilet.

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I hope these tips are helpful.  Good luck on your own potty training a toddler adventure!  If you enjoyed this post, I recommend reading 5 Simple Rules for a Clean Home and 10 Toddler Rules You Must Follow.  I’m currently working on a Spring Cleaning inspired series and will be going through what to toss and how to organize each major room in your home.  Subscribe to my newsletter to keep up to date with the Spring Cleaning series.

Leave a comment and share what you found useful in your potty training adventure.  Any advice on getting a toddler to poop in the potty chair?

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10 Toddler Rules You Must Follow

By on April 4, 2017
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Toddlers are known to have particular preferences and my daughter is no exception. Here are the absolute toddler rules my toddler demands of me and herself.  If you ever meet me and my daughter, you’ll want to follow these rules, too.

10 Absolute Toddler Rules

  1. If mom’s head is laying down on a pillow, toddler must lay down in the opposite direction next to her (why, hello feet!).
  2. Water droplets on the skin is considered a mess. Scooping water out of a bowl onto the floor is not.
  3. All doors must be opened and closed by toddler. Same goes for light switches.
  4. See that car seat high up in the SUV?  Toddler will not sit in it unless toddler has climbed into the car seat by herself.
  5. Toddler must take a bite out of each and every cracker (or fruit) on her plate before picking one to finish off.  This includes each Veggie Pizza Bites.
  6. If a blank piece of paper is placed on her drawing table, she must go and doodle on it.  That takes top priority.
  7. If toddler is in the hallway, stairwell, or a room with an echo…toddler will emit a loud “ah, ah, ah” and revel in the acoustics.
  8. Anytime someone in her vicinity farts, burps, or yawns, she will announce it to the entire world whoever will listen.  It’s up to you to confirm or deny it.
  9. Everyday is a good day to sing and dance.  These must include Wheels on the Bus, Five Little Monkeys, and the Itsy Bitsy Spider.
  10. All music must be played handsome men with a violin and piano. Ok, handsome men is my opinion, not my toddler’s, but she loves Henry along with me. How can you not like a talented musician who plays both the violin and piano?

 

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I Googled Second Infertility and It Scared Me

By on March 29, 2017
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After celebrating the joys of last week, this post is on a more serious note.  I have one beautiful daughter and I’ve always wanted to have three kids, max.  My daughter is already two years old and I haven’t gotten pregnant since having her.  As the months go by and I continue to have my periods, I started to wonder if something is wrong…with me?  My husband?  I started searching Google for answers and came across this term: second infertility.  Do I have second infertility?  I had never heard of this term before.

Disclaimer:  I am no expert on second infertility and cannot help you with any medical questions.  Please direct those to your appropriate care provider.

What is second infertility?

I’m a little frantic now about getting pregnant because I do not want my children to be far apart in age.  By doing the math, even if I get pregnant right this second, my children will be three years apart.  That’s borderline ideal max age difference to me.

Second infertility is when a couple is unable to get pregnant after having had a first pregnancy before.  Sounds unreal, right?  My daughter was conceived really quickly after our marriage, so my husband and I didn’t expect getting pregnant again would be difficult.  I’ve been using a period tracker app to see what days I’m supposed to be most fertile and used that data to try and make that baby magic happen.

Five months and still nothing.  I’m starting to really worry something is up.  I’m still in my 20’s, the last legs of it, but still.  Google’s search results and my monthly results have scared me.

Thankfully, I came across this informative post on Mom.me with information from a physician assistant in an OB practice.  The author writes about six points, but I just want to highlight two that helped me.

50% get pregnant within six months and 85% make a baby within one year

Human fertility is inefficient

First off, a woman usually has only one egg available for fertilization every one month.  Finding the right timing for getting pregnant isn’t easy.  In fact, it’s a 1 in 4 chance of getting pregnant if you are a young healthy couple with no other issues AND you get the timing right.  So, if a group of young healthy couples consistently try to get pregnant with these stats, only 50% get pregnant within six months and 85% make a baby within one year.  I’m only five months in, everyone.

You’re Probably Not Infertile

Second, if you are in the 15% of young healthy couples that didn’t get pregnant within a year, you can’t write yourself off as infertile.  Apparently, there are very few medical diagnoses that actually cause infertility.  It is more likely there are other barriers that are making it difficult for you to get pregnant.    Again, you’d want to consult your care provider in this case.  Is that reassuring news?

Either way, I want that second baby now!  I mean, I have so many great books to read future baby.  So, I’m going to make use of some handy gadgets like an at-home ovulation testing kit and see if we can make that timing right.  Wish me luck, guys!

Have you had a long waiting period before getting pregnant with your next child?

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This Week We Celebrate

By on March 25, 2017

Thinking back on this week, I realize there is much to celebrate.

  1. I managed to put up three posts this week, including a recipe for some spicy Korean food.  I decided to share another blog tip on writing a perfect post.  My daughter’s favorite books from last year also finally made an appearance.  I’ve been thinking about that last one for many months now, so let’s celebrate its completion!
  2. Her Life Is Love turned one month old this week.  I’ve always thought about returning back to blogging for seven years before I finally just went for it.  During this past month, I’ve been learning a lot and it has been so much fun!  I love having this space to socialize with other parent bloggers and am still hoping this will lead to some wonderful friendships.
  3. My husband got laid off two weeks ago due to a back injury, but he found a new and better job this week.  My biggest reason to celebrate this week!  He’ll start working tomorrow by going away on a business trip.  It feels rather sudden, but he is looking forward to it.  I think staying home, recuperating, and being out of work was pretty tough on him even though I cooked one of his favorites.
  4. It’s also my husband’s birthday this week.  We will celebrate with a small birthday party at home today.  My daughter and I plan on baking him a lemon cake.  Hopefully, it’ll turn out well.  She’s only two.  Maybe I will have her make a birthday card, too.  What do you think?

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How was your week?  Do you have anything to celebrate?  Share with us!

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8 Must Read Books for the One Year Old

By on March 24, 2017
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I’m a bookworm.  I love curling up to a good book, so the advice I got that a good mom reads to their baby a lot worked out well.  Reading to my daughter got a lot more exciting after she turned one year old.  By then, she was more aware of the world around her and seemed to really absorb the content in the books.  Around 18 months, we got to participate in the Summer Reading Program at our local library.  Through the experience, we discovered eight books for a one year old that we highly recommend.  If you would like more daughter-inspired recommendations, check out my daughter’s favorites for bath time!

Jazz Baby

Babies and young toddlers listen to the rhythm and tonal changes in order to learn a language.  Jazz Baby is a book that automatically makes you sing when reading it out loud.  It’s pretty catchy and after reading it together numerous times, we practically memorized the whole book.  I liked how the extended family and neighbors take part in this story, so my daughter was exposed to many new key words.

Jazz Baby by Lisa Wheeler

Don’t Push the Button!

This is such a cute story.  You have this adorable purple character who speaks to you, the reader, and much like any young child, has little self-restraint.  The whole book goes through his struggle to follow one simple rule.  Don’t push the button.  Toddlers have a knack for wanting to do things you tell them not to do.  This is one such case, but we really enjoyed pushing the button anyway.  This book allows for a fun interaction with the book and I like it because making reading fun at an early age is key to keeping kids interested in reading for a lifetime.

Don’t Push the Button by Bill Cotter

Dear Zoo

A classic book that’s already been around for 30 years, so many of you may already be familiar with it.  Plus, it’s a flap book and young toddlers love lifting flaps in a book.  We loved guessing what animal is behind each flap and then making the animal sounds, too.  This book taught my daughter the words for lion, elephant, and giraffe.  We especially loved the ending because it includes the best animal of all!

Dear Zoo by Rod Campbell

Knuffle Bunny

I personally liked how this book takes actual photographs and places these illustrated characters inside.  My daughter has a stuffed bunny, too, so we could sort of relate with the characters in the story.  I might have liked this book more than my daughter because the author, Mo Willems, accurately captures what a toddler does when she gets frustrated from not being understood.  Hint: They go floppy.

Knuffle Bunny by Mo Willems

Dinosaur’s Binkit

We enjoy a lot of Sandra Boynton books because of the adorable illustrations.  Here’s a lovely story about a dinosaur getting ready for bed, but apparently he’s missing his binkit.  It’s a quick and easy read, plus it’s a flap book.  The ideal bedtime story for when you want to make a quick exit.  What makes this book particularly great for young toddlers is that it includes textures.  On the cover, you can feel the fuzzy softness of the dinosaur’s binkit.

Dinosaur’s Binkit by Sandra Boynton

Where Is Pim?

We loved the illustrations and the story is quite simple.  In fact, you will want to talk about the illustrations and spot different things together to make a reading of this book worthwhile.  I liked to point out the dogs and what they encounter on their search for Pim.

Where Is Pim? by Lena and Olaf Landstrom

Hi!

My daughter learned the names of many different animals (wolf, polar bear, donkey, owl) and the different sounds they make.  It was so cute to read this book with her and hear her howl with the wolf and growl with the polar bear.  I remember this book fondly because it is the first book where my daughter actually started to repeat after me and voice the words for owl and bird.  I think because it is such a simple book where I only repeated the name of the animal and the sound they make, it was easy for my daughter to follow along.

Hi! by Ethan Long

Hand, Hand, Fingers, Thumb

This is another great rhyming, rhythmic book that is fun to read.  The monkey illustrations are endearing as they teach about hands, fingers, thumbs, and drums.  My daughter still loves this book, even though she is now two years old.  It is a #1 bestseller in children’s books on Amazon and right now, it’s on sale for $2.99!  I’m so glad our local librarian recommended this book to us.  I highly recommend this board book, too.

Hand, Hand, Fingers, Thumb by Al Perkins

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These are all affordable books that a one year old will love.  If you need gift ideas for a first birthday, any one of these books are sure to be a hit.

Which book would you read to your one year old?

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How to Be a Good Mom

By on March 14, 2017
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Do you aim to be a good mom (or dad, but since I’m a mom, I’ll continue to use that term in the rest of this post) but find yourself feeling guilty or wondering if what you are doing is good enough? Here’s a little message for you. You are doing a great job!

I do not dare to say that I’m some sort of perfect mom.  I learn alongside my daughter every step of the way on how I can be a good mom, or even a better mom, for her. From my experience, I have picked out three key things you can do to help you be a good mom.

A good mom has a sense of humor

If you haven’t figured it out yet, you’ll soon find that parenting a toddler is so much easier to deal with when you have a sense of humor. It helps you keep a positive outlook when your toddler grabs your last straw and chucks it out the fourth story window. Whether she is sad or happy, angry or confused, my daughter is constantly looking towards me for my reaction to whatever is happening right now in her world. If I can find the humor in a bad situation, I can help my daughter learn that you can make lemonade out of life’s lemons.

A good mom is prepared for anything

This is a skill that you will automatically develop as a mom. It basically means you can go with the flow because you are prepared for whatever curveball comes your way. Maybe you planned a picnic out at the park today, but the weather isn’t cooperating. Being prepared, you could tweak things a bit and pitch a pillow and blanket fort in your living room. Have your picnic at home and make it a camping adventure instead.

A good mom keeps a small plate

It’s important to make your daily schedule manageable.  This is for your sake just as much as it is for your child’s.  When you have too much on your plate, you’re less likely to be flexible enough to meet your toddler’s needs. This is particularly important if your toddler still naps. Don’t miss that nap!  It’s better to plan one quality activity with your toddler than cramming in a trip to the zoo, a playdate, and an outing to the playground before naptime.

Do you agree with my list? What would you add to this list?

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Never Skip a Nap

By on March 11, 2017
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Or let your toddler fall asleep in the car. Especially when you are down to one nap a day. She’ll wake as soon as you park at home (I blame the auto unlocking function in my car as soon as I shift gear to P) and napping while in movement is not restful at all.

She won’t fall back asleep at home and she’ll get super cranky much earlier before her bedtime. She will also be tired and forget she is under the piano…standing up too quickly and cutting her head open.

 

Plus, dealing with daylight savings time wreaks havoc on a toddler sleep schedule.

Do you also deal with DST?  Have you ever regretted skipping a nap? What ointment would you recommend for open cuts?

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