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One of the benefits of healthy anger is that it lets you know when and how you may have wasted your precious time and energy on the wrong people or situations. In this way, anger serves as a useful notification system that helps you to redirect your resources in ways that can then result in far better rates of return on your investments.

But if you find yourself stuck in a place of anger then there is a good chance that you have started to waste energy on that too. Instead of accusing anyone of a moral crime, a better conclusion about disappointing though not abusive behaviour might be:.

Even some of Help eachother eliminate look great worst betrayals are the result of people simply having unrealistic expectations about each other. In its most agonising moments, dependency is often accompanied by mental obsession. For example, your mind may be toying with mental visualisations of how things were or how things could turn out be in the future, gradually weaving together a whole storyline with which to fantastically bewitch you.

You may find yourself fixating on a past story or on an imaginary conversation which you wish you could have with someone. In this case, it may be worth writing down everything you would like to tell them or others to get it all off your chest.

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People often distract themselves by focusing on a personal goal. Focusing on what inspires you is a great idea and a goal can be part of the fun but you can do that without making everything depend too rigidly on a particular outcome. It may help to consciously and even somewhat firmly stop yourself from focusing on, thinking about or visualising whatever you need to depend on less.

You may need to give up bad habits such as compulsively checking phone messages, email or chat apps and remove reminders such as photos, videos, social media and so on. A good way to change that is to decide what you should be focusing on less and what you should be focusing on more and then taking responsibility for making that happen. A trick that will work for some people is substituting the object of their desire with something that meets a similar need.

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And sometimes the good experience we desire is not worth its eventual consequences. Sometimes we get exactly what we want and it results in a totally unexpected disaster. A good way to detach is to view new people in your life as characters in a cool movie that is allowed to have any storyline. The aim is to have an interesting experience by seeing how the plot develops and what you can learn from it rather than insisting that it must become the story of a great friendship, partnership or romance.

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One-sided over-attachment can be quite creepy especially when it comes to the issue of flirting. Just imagine someone who is not your type repeatedly gazing into your eyes or making suggestive remarks while you sit there politely squirming with awkwardness.

But the main reason to take things slowly with new people is that they may not actually be good for you in spite of overwhelming impressions to the contrary.

Part of becoming less needy and more independent is improving what you can do for yourself. But an equally important part of the solution is having the patience to wait for some things in life to fall into place rather than depending rather too much on the next person or outcome that may or may not be good for you.

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