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Much Ado About Nothing

By on May 22, 2017
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How do other mom bloggers do it?  I can’t possibly be the only one to deal with extreme first trimester fatigue, nausea, an energetic toddler, and a summer cold to boot all at the same time.  With all these things happening all at once, I just couldn’t find the energy to put any love and attention to Her Life Is Love.  I apologize for going MIA these past few weeks.

Finding an Obstetrician in America

My pregnancy is official and I’m currently 9 weeks along!  It took me a couple weeks to find a doctor because my insurance coverage sucks.  The first place I called could no longer take in new patients for the month of my expected due date.  The second place did not accept my insurance at all.  The third place no longer delivers babies.  At this point, I called my old obstetrician who delivered my first child and found out he no longer delivers either.

I called a couple other places and they don’t take my insurance either.  So, I tried calling my preferred hospital directly and they told me I could see a rotation of 12 residents for my pregnancy care and delivery.  Would you feel comfortable being under the care of final year medical students?  Another hospital said I could see a rotation of four doctors, not medical students.

For those in America, I have discovered you should just call your insurance company directly for a list of doctors in your area.  Calling is more accurate than checking their list online.  The list of doctors in my area only resulted in one that accepted my insurance AND delivered at my preferred hospital, the one closest to me.

Differences From First Pregnancy

My main concern with this pregnancy is dealing with morning sickness.  When I was living in South Korea, my morning sickness was awful.  It was so bad that I had to go to the hospital multiple times to get an IV drip for hydration and nutrition.  It’s very affordable to do so over there.  If I had the same level of morning sickness in America, I worried that I would have to just grin and bear it, but thankfully, I am able to eat a little here and there this time around.

I have been experiencing more pregnancy dreams this time around.  This is probably because I am experiencing a lot more fatigue this time around and am napping and sleeping that much more.  I am really looking forward to when this extreme fatigue will level out so that I can actually get things done around the house and with this blog.  Even writing up this personal post took a lot longer than usual. but we’ll be back real soon!  Thanks for understanding, everyone.

What symptoms hit you the hardest in your first trimester?  

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Pregnancy Week 5 in South Korea Versus America

By on April 24, 2017
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Quite recently, I wrote about how I scared myself with the term Second Infertility and how I was concerned by how long it’s been taking to get pregnant with my second child.  Well, this post isn’t a pregnancy announcement.  It’s just an “I missed my period!” announcement.  And I never miss a period.  I have not taken a pregnancy test yet, but is this pregnancy week 5?

My First Pregnancy Week 5

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When I was pregnant with my daughter, I was unaware of pregnancy week 5.  I didn’t even realize I completely missed my period until my husband asked.  When I told my husband I was a week late, he was very excited and immediately bought a pregnancy test.  I’ve read that pregnancy tests are most accurate if used in the morning when you wake up.  I guess this is because you haven’t put anything else into your body during a night of full rest.  I woke up with a sudden urge to pee around 3 AM and decided to try the test as my husband continued to sleep.

I was a jumble of emotions when I saw that the results were positive.  Could it be a false positive?  Were my eyes playing tricks on me during the bewitching hour of 3 AM?  We were newlyweds and I had just started a new job.  I didn’t feel ready to be a mom yet.  I woke my husband up and he was just elated.  He told everyone in his family as soon as it became a reasonable hour!  And this was before we even visited a doctor to check.

Being Pregnant in South Korea

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I got pregnant with my daughter while we were living in South Korea.  It was very easy to make an appointment with a doctor to get an ultrasound and check to see if I was indeed pregnant.  By this time, it was already past pregnancy week 5, but we got to hear a heartbeat.  At week 6, this was a very special moment.  I hadn’t realized a baby’s heart would already be formed and beating by this time!

Living in America now, I am a little unsure of how to proceed with this possible pregnancy.  I am pretty sure I am pregnant, even without taking a pregnancy test, because I never miss periods.  Do I need to have a positive pregnancy test before I can see a OB/GYN?

Health insurance in America is a lot trickier than the nationwide health coverage available in South Korea.  I will have to call around and ask if the doctor takes my insurance.  I also know that some doctors won’t take in new patients if they have reached their limit.  This was never an issue in South Korea.

Perks of Being Pregnant in South Korea

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  • South Korean government provided me with a special card value of 500,000 KRW (currently about $440) to help pay for health checkups that are not fully covered by insurance.  I managed to use it all within six months.
  • South Korean government provided me with folic acid and iron supplements to take during the first trimester at no additional cost.
  • Special priority seats for pregnant women to sit down in the subway or bus.  But, it’s hard to use these in the first trimester when you’re not really showing because people will judge you for using these seats when you’re “not pregnant”.  I had terrible morning sickness and still had to go to work using public transportation during rush hour.  I never got a seat during the first trimester, but as I started to show, some started offering me their seats.

I expect my experiences with a second pregnancy to be quite different because I am living in America now.  Just the prospect of having to find a OB/GYN who is recommended and available to take me in as a patient is overwhelming.  Even with this exciting development, I am still working on the Spring Cleaning Series.  My next step is cleaning out the bathroom, which is a guest post I wrote for Namaste and Eat Cupcakes.  Please drop by and leave a comment!  I will continue the series with organizing the bathroom on Her Life Is Love.

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To the recently pregnant and currently pregnant moms, please advise me on what I should avoid doing and eating as I have forgotten most of the information I read up on from my first pregnancy.  Leave a comment and let me know!

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