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I Googled Second Infertility and It Scared Me

By on March 29, 2017
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After celebrating the joys of last week, this post is on a more serious note.  I have one beautiful daughter and I’ve always wanted to have three kids, max.  My daughter is already two years old and I haven’t gotten pregnant since having her.  As the months go by and I continue to have my periods, I started to wonder if something is wrong…with me?  My husband?  I started searching Google for answers and came across this term: second infertility.  Do I have second infertility?  I had never heard of this term before.

Disclaimer:  I am no expert on second infertility and cannot help you with any medical questions.  Please direct those to your appropriate care provider.

What is second infertility?

I’m a little frantic now about getting pregnant because I do not want my children to be far apart in age.  By doing the math, even if I get pregnant right this second, my children will be three years apart.  That’s borderline ideal max age difference to me.

Second infertility is when a couple is unable to get pregnant after having had a first pregnancy before.  Sounds unreal, right?  My daughter was conceived really quickly after our marriage, so my husband and I didn’t expect getting pregnant again would be difficult.  I’ve been using a period tracker app to see what days I’m supposed to be most fertile and used that data to try and make that baby magic happen.

Five months and still nothing.  I’m starting to really worry something is up.  I’m still in my 20’s, the last legs of it, but still.  Google’s search results and my monthly results have scared me.

Thankfully, I came across this informative post on Mom.me with information from a physician assistant in an OB practice.  The author writes about six points, but I just want to highlight two that helped me.

50% get pregnant within six months and 85% make a baby within one year

Human fertility is inefficient

First off, a woman usually has only one egg available for fertilization every one month.  Finding the right timing for getting pregnant isn’t easy.  In fact, it’s a 1 in 4 chance of getting pregnant if you are a young healthy couple with no other issues AND you get the timing right.  So, if a group of young healthy couples consistently try to get pregnant with these stats, only 50% get pregnant within six months and 85% make a baby within one year.  I’m only five months in, everyone.

You’re Probably Not Infertile

Second, if you are in the 15% of young healthy couples that didn’t get pregnant within a year, you can’t write yourself off as infertile.  Apparently, there are very few medical diagnoses that actually cause infertility.  It is more likely there are other barriers that are making it difficult for you to get pregnant.    Again, you’d want to consult your care provider in this case.  Is that reassuring news?

Either way, I want that second baby now!  I mean, I have so many great books to read future baby.  So, I’m going to make use of some handy gadgets like an at-home ovulation testing kit and see if we can make that timing right.  Wish me luck, guys!

Have you had a long waiting period before getting pregnant with your next child?

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Family | Reviews

8 Must Read Books for the One Year Old

By on March 24, 2017
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I’m a bookworm.  I love curling up to a good book, so the advice I got that a good mom reads to their baby a lot worked out well.  Reading to my daughter got a lot more exciting after she turned one year old.  By then, she was more aware of the world around her and seemed to really absorb the content in the books.  Around 18 months, we got to participate in the Summer Reading Program at our local library.  Through the experience, we discovered eight books for a one year old that we highly recommend.  If you would like more daughter-inspired recommendations, check out my daughter’s favorites for bath time!

Jazz Baby

Babies and young toddlers listen to the rhythm and tonal changes in order to learn a language.  Jazz Baby is a book that automatically makes you sing when reading it out loud.  It’s pretty catchy and after reading it together numerous times, we practically memorized the whole book.  I liked how the extended family and neighbors take part in this story, so my daughter was exposed to many new key words.

Jazz Baby by Lisa Wheeler

Don’t Push the Button!

This is such a cute story.  You have this adorable purple character who speaks to you, the reader, and much like any young child, has little self-restraint.  The whole book goes through his struggle to follow one simple rule.  Don’t push the button.  Toddlers have a knack for wanting to do things you tell them not to do.  This is one such case, but we really enjoyed pushing the button anyway.  This book allows for a fun interaction with the book and I like it because making reading fun at an early age is key to keeping kids interested in reading for a lifetime.

Don’t Push the Button by Bill Cotter

Dear Zoo

A classic book that’s already been around for 30 years, so many of you may already be familiar with it.  Plus, it’s a flap book and young toddlers love lifting flaps in a book.  We loved guessing what animal is behind each flap and then making the animal sounds, too.  This book taught my daughter the words for lion, elephant, and giraffe.  We especially loved the ending because it includes the best animal of all!

Dear Zoo by Rod Campbell

Knuffle Bunny

I personally liked how this book takes actual photographs and places these illustrated characters inside.  My daughter has a stuffed bunny, too, so we could sort of relate with the characters in the story.  I might have liked this book more than my daughter because the author, Mo Willems, accurately captures what a toddler does when she gets frustrated from not being understood.  Hint: They go floppy.

Knuffle Bunny by Mo Willems

Dinosaur’s Binkit

We enjoy a lot of Sandra Boynton books because of the adorable illustrations.  Here’s a lovely story about a dinosaur getting ready for bed, but apparently he’s missing his binkit.  It’s a quick and easy read, plus it’s a flap book.  The ideal bedtime story for when you want to make a quick exit.  What makes this book particularly great for young toddlers is that it includes textures.  On the cover, you can feel the fuzzy softness of the dinosaur’s binkit.

Dinosaur’s Binkit by Sandra Boynton

Where Is Pim?

We loved the illustrations and the story is quite simple.  In fact, you will want to talk about the illustrations and spot different things together to make a reading of this book worthwhile.  I liked to point out the dogs and what they encounter on their search for Pim.

Where Is Pim? by Lena and Olaf Landstrom

Hi!

My daughter learned the names of many different animals (wolf, polar bear, donkey, owl) and the different sounds they make.  It was so cute to read this book with her and hear her howl with the wolf and growl with the polar bear.  I remember this book fondly because it is the first book where my daughter actually started to repeat after me and voice the words for owl and bird.  I think because it is such a simple book where I only repeated the name of the animal and the sound they make, it was easy for my daughter to follow along.

Hi! by Ethan Long

Hand, Hand, Fingers, Thumb

This is another great rhyming, rhythmic book that is fun to read.  The monkey illustrations are endearing as they teach about hands, fingers, thumbs, and drums.  My daughter still loves this book, even though she is now two years old.  It is a #1 bestseller in children’s books on Amazon and right now, it’s on sale for $2.99!  I’m so glad our local librarian recommended this book to us.  I highly recommend this board book, too.

Hand, Hand, Fingers, Thumb by Al Perkins

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These are all affordable books that a one year old will love.  If you need gift ideas for a first birthday, any one of these books are sure to be a hit.

Which book would you read to your one year old?

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Family | Reviews

5 Toddler Bath Products For Bath Time Fun

By on March 6, 2017
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There are tons of different bath products aimed for babies and toddlers out on the market and it can be overwhelming to pick and choose.  My daughter loves bath time and these are the five toddler bath products we use to keep it that way.

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CeraVe Baby Moisturizing Cream

A lot of parents and even our pediatrician recommend Cetaphil for use with my daughter’s skin, but it made her skin so itchy that she would scratch herself until she had scars from her constant scratching.  I tried CeraVe Baby Moisturizing Cream on a whim (I was browsing through Meijer and had a coupon) and am so glad I listened to that whim.  It rubs into my daughter’s skin very well and my main plus is that it doesn’t seem to cause any itch, so she doesn’t have the urge to dig at her skin anymore.  The cons I have with this product is that I feel like I need to use a lot to cover her skin surface area.  I think perhaps because it is a cream, it doesn’t spread out as far when I rub into the skin.  Also, it feels like it leaves behind a slightly waxy residue.  Maybe this is a protective barrier of some sort to keep the moisture in.  It doesn’t bother my daughter, but it just leaves me feeling a bit turned off by the feel it leaves on my own hands.

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TruKid Bubble Podz

My daughter absolutely loves having bubbles in her bath and Bubble Podz has a version that is safe to use with eczema-prone skin, which is a huge plus.  My daughter had some serious patches of eczema in her first year and the pediatrician told us to keep her bath water from getting too hot, leave her in for a short amount of time, and no bubbles.  He obviously hadn’t heard of TruKid Bubble Podz.  I received a pack from my cousin’s wife and my daughter loved it.  I felt completely safe with using this product for her because it didn’t cause any irritations and rather, I felt it helped soothe her skin.  I won’t say this cured her of eczema, but she hasn’t had any reactions in a year now.

Pro Tip: Use one pod towards the end of filling up the tub.  Placing it under the running water too soon causes most of the bubbles to disappear by the time you turn the faucet off.  Also, don’t rush through letting the pod dissolve in your hand, even though it leaves the gooey casing behind.  You want the rushing water to seep through the entire product and create a lot of bubbles.

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TruKid Dancing Hair Detangler

This hair detangler is amazing! It works on the toughest tangles. I’m talking a knot in a knot. I used it on my daughter when I can’t untangle the mess with my own two hands. It leaves behind a slight shine, but that’s not a problem when I can untangle my daughter’s (and my) hair without tears  (in the hair or on the face).  This is a toddler bath product I will always be sure to have an extra one of.

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Nuby 16-piece Floating Foam Bath Animals Set

This is a nice pack of foam buddies that will stick to your tub or tiled walls when wet. It provides simple, creative play and a good opportunity to learn sea creatures and colors. There are two sets of the same eight creatures. I used one set until it got moldy.  They are sturdy so they won’t break apart easily.  I haven’t tried breaking them in half, but they seem to withstand typical toddler strength.  My daughter is not a biter, though, so not sure how it will hold up to teeth. Click the image for more reviews.

Pro tip: Separate them to air dry. I found out the hard way that if I didn’t bother to separate them after a bath session, they will grow mold that you can’t scrub off.  Simply replace with the second set or buy it again. It won’t break the bank.

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Skip Hop Moby Bath Tear-Free Waterfall Rinser

Like a typical toddler, my daughter hates getting water in her eyes or running down her face. I like this whale cup because it allows for fun and the yellow rubber grip helps rinse shampoo out of my daughter’s hair without letting the water get into her face (provided she tilts her head back far enough). The best part is that it doesn’t get moldy and will air dry well when turned upside down.

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Are there any bath products you love to use with your child? Feel free to share!

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Eats

Carrot Yam Bake

By on March 4, 2017
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My friends know that I’m not much of a foodie.  I’ve always been one of those people who eat to live.  Cooking was a chore that took too much time away from other things I loved doing (mainly reading or playing video games).  Once I became a mom, though, the weight of responsibility for feeding another, dependent human being was great.  I didn’t want my daughter to grow up simply eating to live.  No, I wanted her to enjoy eating so that she will grow up healthy and tall.

I want to share with you a simple, very easy recipe that my daughter and I love.  It involves eggs so it is best suited for toddlers age one and up (and after ensuring there are no egg allergies!).  My daughter wasn’t fond of eggs until closer to two years of age, so in the beginning, it was mainly me eating it all up.  I love eggs!

Easy to make, but eats up a lot of time.

 

Carrot Yam Bake Recipe

Servings: Who knows…my two year old can eat 3/4 of the amount in one sitting.

Ingredients: one carrot, one yam, one cup of whole milk, three eggs, one tablespoon of butter, salt and pepper

  1. Wash the yam to clean off any dirt.  Wash, peel, and chop carrot into small circles.  Put everything into a pot of water and boil.  This is where it takes a lot of time.  You want to boil until you can poke clear through the middle of the yam with a chopstick (or a fork) with very slight pressure.  Depending on the size of the yam, it can take 40 minutes or more.
  2. In a large bowl, place yam and carefully peel off the skin.  It will be hot, but it’s easier to remove the skin like this rather than attempting to peel it off an uncooked yam.  Add carrot slices to the bowl of peeled yam and mash everything together with a fork.
  3. Add the three eggs, one cup of whole milk, and one tablespoon of butter to bowl and mix thoroughly.  Add salt and pepper to taste if feeding an older toddler.  If it’s being served for a younger toddler, hold off on the salt and pepper.  They won’t need the extra flavoring.
  4. Preheat oven to 425F.  Prepare small baking dish, preferably with a lid.  It keeps moisture in so the bake doesn’t dry out.  Pour mixture from bowl into baking dish.  Place in preheated oven and bake for 20 minutes.  I like to bake for 20 minutes and then let it sit in the residual heat for another 5 minutes, just to make sure the eggs are thoroughly cooked.
  5. Let cool and serve.

My daughter still doesn’t like eggs much on their own, but she will gobble everything off her plate when it is carrot yam bake…with eggs.  Frankly, I would, too!

Try this recipe at home and let me know how you like it!  Are there any variations you did to make it your own?  Please share, I would love to try making different styles, too.

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Family

The Two Confessions of a Creepy Mom

By on March 3, 2017
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If you are here for a terrible pun, here it is.  The two confessions of a creepy mom…get it?  Not…the true confessions.  Hahaha, I told you it was terrible.

I thought about this last night after putting my daughter to bed.  I was planning on coming back out and working on a post, but I found myself whittling away the hours watching her sleep, hearing her breathe, and sniffing the lovely baby smell out of her.  Well, actually, since she is no longer (technically) a baby, she doesn’t have that sweet milk smell about her anymore…but she still smells nice.

If I was doing this to any other person, that would make me pretty creepy, right?  So, that makes me a creepy mom, but I’m proud of it.  Here’s why.

Confession 1

Ever since my daughter was born, it’s only once in a blue moon where I get a full night of sleep.  Strangely, I don’t mind.  Before baby, I could not function well without a full night of sleep.  This must be one of the many ways a mother’s body changes.  Somehow, I am very willing to pass the night away with less hours of sleep than before.  There are often nights where I choose to just stare at my child and before I know it, two hours have gone by.

This seemingly mundane obsession I have over my daughter’s nighttime sleep is just a fraction of how much I love her.  You often hear about that amazing thing called a mother’s love.  If anything, perhaps you’ve seen it in Harry Potter?  You know, the part where (spoiler??) Harry’s mom sacrifices herself to protect baby Harry?  Yeah, that mother’s love.  This is just a fraction of that.  It makes me a creepy mom, but that’s OK!

Confession 2

All creepy moms will have done this next one at least once.  We’ve kept a poop diary.  It’s what it sounds like.  Basically, we write down the times our baby poops and what color/consistency it is.  Every time.  Of course, this is mainly in the beginning when the pediatrician needs the information to make sure our baby is eating and digesting everything alright.  I hardly remember those days, though, because everything else about being a new mom was so overwhelming.  The poop diary and the feeding schedule took over my life.

One thing you might not know about newborn babies is that they eat a lot and eat often.  Or at least, I was told you have to feed them like every few hours or so…and if they are asleep, you have to wake them up and feed them.  I remember Googling how to wake up a sleeping newborn or keep them awake so they would feed.  Now, it’s more like how do I keep my child asleep?  But, you know what?  I want to do it again.  We are trying for a second before the age gap gets any wider, but no news yet.

This post was partly inspired by puns.  If you know any punny jokes, leave them in the comments below.  You’ll at least get a laugh out of me!

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