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Spoke Too Soon

By on May 26, 2017

I mentioned the reasons why I’ve been missing in action in my last post,  but it seems like I’ve spoken (or posted) too soon. I’ve been hit hard with morning sickness and it’s the sort that lasts all day. Couldn’t keep anything except a can of Sprite down yesterday. Is facing the toilet seven times in a day normal? 

Fiesta Friday

Unfortunately,  morning sickness has kept me far from the kitchen and it sucks because this week I am cohosting Fiesta Friday with Lindy from Love in the Kitchen.  Fiesta Friday is a fun and welcoming linky to join and while it has taken on a focus on food posts, it’s actually open to all posts that share how you are getting your fiesta on for the weekend. I’ll be visiting and commenting on posts,  so look for me when you’ve joined the linky!

If you dropped by looking for some food posts,  check out my Eats category for some fun and easy ideas.  

If you want to be chosen as a feature post, be sure to follow the guidelines found on the site (mainly about linking back to the correct Fiesta Friday and the co-hosts).  Don’t forget to tag Fiesta Friday on your post so it’s easy to find. Drop by Fiesta Friday #173 to join when you’re ready!

Leave a comment if you join Fiesta Friday so I can keep a special eye out for your post! Also, any ideas to combat morning sickness? I’m dying here. 

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Much Ado About Nothing

By on May 22, 2017
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How do other mom bloggers do it?  I can’t possibly be the only one to deal with extreme first trimester fatigue, nausea, an energetic toddler, and a summer cold to boot all at the same time.  With all these things happening all at once, I just couldn’t find the energy to put any love and attention to Her Life Is Love.  I apologize for going MIA these past few weeks.

Finding an Obstetrician in America

My pregnancy is official and I’m currently 9 weeks along!  It took me a couple weeks to find a doctor because my insurance coverage sucks.  The first place I called could no longer take in new patients for the month of my expected due date.  The second place did not accept my insurance at all.  The third place no longer delivers babies.  At this point, I called my old obstetrician who delivered my first child and found out he no longer delivers either.

I called a couple other places and they don’t take my insurance either.  So, I tried calling my preferred hospital directly and they told me I could see a rotation of 12 residents for my pregnancy care and delivery.  Would you feel comfortable being under the care of final year medical students?  Another hospital said I could see a rotation of four doctors, not medical students.

For those in America, I have discovered you should just call your insurance company directly for a list of doctors in your area.  Calling is more accurate than checking their list online.  The list of doctors in my area only resulted in one that accepted my insurance AND delivered at my preferred hospital, the one closest to me.

Differences From First Pregnancy

My main concern with this pregnancy is dealing with morning sickness.  When I was living in South Korea, my morning sickness was awful.  It was so bad that I had to go to the hospital multiple times to get an IV drip for hydration and nutrition.  It’s very affordable to do so over there.  If I had the same level of morning sickness in America, I worried that I would have to just grin and bear it, but thankfully, I am able to eat a little here and there this time around.

I have been experiencing more pregnancy dreams this time around.  This is probably because I am experiencing a lot more fatigue this time around and am napping and sleeping that much more.  I am really looking forward to when this extreme fatigue will level out so that I can actually get things done around the house and with this blog.  Even writing up this personal post took a lot longer than usual. but we’ll be back real soon!  Thanks for understanding, everyone.

What symptoms hit you the hardest in your first trimester?  

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Redistribute Cleaning Chores During Pregnancy

By on May 14, 2017

The following is a guest post submitted by Bethany Nolan.  Her Life Is Love cannot vouch for the content in the post, but all accepted guest posts are ones that Paula from Her Life Is Love enjoyed reading and wanted to share with her readers.  For further information, check our disclosure.

There are household chores which are dangerous for pregnant women and should be implemented by someone else. As a matter of fact most household tasks can be risky for the mother and the child before giving birth and can lead to doing this prematurely. The chores presented here you should avoid while you are expecting to protect you and your baby’s health. Delegate the presented below to the members of your family to keep your home tidy and hygienic.

Mopping and Vacuum Cleaning

These chores can deteriorate sciatica which is a painful soreness of the sciatic nerve running from the lower side of the back to the entire leg. Sciatica is most commonly suffered during pregnancy because of the weight gain. All activities which make you bend forward can worsen it. It is estimated that although pregnant women can feel good while doing some domestic task, they often experience pains as a result of the efforts later. So, leave the vacuum cleaning and mopping of the carpets and floors to other member of your family and avoid leaning forward.

Bathroom Cleaning

The cleaning of the bathroom involves using of chemicals which pregnant women shouldn’t be exposed to or inhale. Even some essential oils can be bad for the health of the expecting mums. So, in case you decide to clean the bathroom, you better make your own cleaning preparations using safe ingredients like baking soda, lemon juice, white vinegar and others. As a rule if some detergent smells repulsive or contains chemicals you shouldn’t use it. It is recommended to delegate the bathroom cleaning to someone else.

Cleaning the Litter Box

This is another chore which you should avoid and leave for someone else to do. Cat faeces in the litter box can transmit to you and the foetus a dangerous infection which causes brain damage, vision loss and even kill the baby. We advise that no matter what cleaning work you decide to do always make sure to wear gloves and protection mask on the mouth.

Cleaning Ceiling Fans and Hanging Curtains

As a rule you should avoid climbing and staying on high from the ground places risking your and your baby’s health. These chores which have risks for the mother to fall should be delegated to someone else. It is estimated that pregnant women’s centre of gravity changes and this makes them vulnerable to accidents and falls.

Doing the Laundry

If your doctor has advised you not to lift heavy items you shouldn’t do the laundry. A hamper weighs much and by lifting and carrying it to the terrace you can create to your body and the foetus problems. The results of doing this chore during pregnancy can be pre-term labour, high level of blood pressure and some other unpleasant health conditions.

Lifting and Carrying Heavy Loads

Your doctor should tell you how much weight you can carry safely so, adhere to his recommendations and advice. As the baby in your belly grows, your back experiences more pressure carrying more weight. You will strain you back and feel more uncomfortable if you carry heavy loads. So, avoid or be extra careful when carrying laundry baskets, vacuum cleaners and buckets.

During pregnancy you should avoid standing for too long, bending and climbing. As was explained above, these are risky for your health and the baby. Standing upright too long can harm you by creating high blood pressure, disrupting the blood flow, stress your body and create swollen feet.

The cleaning and household chores mentioned above should be avoided by pregnant women and should be provided by the other member of the family or a housemaid. Being exposed to chemicals and harsh products as well as doing risky activities are dangerous for the foetus and the mother.

I love any excuse to avoid housework.  Honestly, I will continue to deal with mopping and vacuuming, but bathroom scrub work will be delegated to the husband!  What chores did you continue to do and avoided doing while pregnant? Leave a comment and let me know!

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Pregnancy Week 5 in South Korea Versus America

By on April 24, 2017
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Quite recently, I wrote about how I scared myself with the term Second Infertility and how I was concerned by how long it’s been taking to get pregnant with my second child.  Well, this post isn’t a pregnancy announcement.  It’s just an “I missed my period!” announcement.  And I never miss a period.  I have not taken a pregnancy test yet, but is this pregnancy week 5?

My First Pregnancy Week 5

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When I was pregnant with my daughter, I was unaware of pregnancy week 5.  I didn’t even realize I completely missed my period until my husband asked.  When I told my husband I was a week late, he was very excited and immediately bought a pregnancy test.  I’ve read that pregnancy tests are most accurate if used in the morning when you wake up.  I guess this is because you haven’t put anything else into your body during a night of full rest.  I woke up with a sudden urge to pee around 3 AM and decided to try the test as my husband continued to sleep.

I was a jumble of emotions when I saw that the results were positive.  Could it be a false positive?  Were my eyes playing tricks on me during the bewitching hour of 3 AM?  We were newlyweds and I had just started a new job.  I didn’t feel ready to be a mom yet.  I woke my husband up and he was just elated.  He told everyone in his family as soon as it became a reasonable hour!  And this was before we even visited a doctor to check.

Being Pregnant in South Korea

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I got pregnant with my daughter while we were living in South Korea.  It was very easy to make an appointment with a doctor to get an ultrasound and check to see if I was indeed pregnant.  By this time, it was already past pregnancy week 5, but we got to hear a heartbeat.  At week 6, this was a very special moment.  I hadn’t realized a baby’s heart would already be formed and beating by this time!

Living in America now, I am a little unsure of how to proceed with this possible pregnancy.  I am pretty sure I am pregnant, even without taking a pregnancy test, because I never miss periods.  Do I need to have a positive pregnancy test before I can see a OB/GYN?

Health insurance in America is a lot trickier than the nationwide health coverage available in South Korea.  I will have to call around and ask if the doctor takes my insurance.  I also know that some doctors won’t take in new patients if they have reached their limit.  This was never an issue in South Korea.

Perks of Being Pregnant in South Korea

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  • South Korean government provided me with a special card value of 500,000 KRW (currently about $440) to help pay for health checkups that are not fully covered by insurance.  I managed to use it all within six months.
  • South Korean government provided me with folic acid and iron supplements to take during the first trimester at no additional cost.
  • Special priority seats for pregnant women to sit down in the subway or bus.  But, it’s hard to use these in the first trimester when you’re not really showing because people will judge you for using these seats when you’re “not pregnant”.  I had terrible morning sickness and still had to go to work using public transportation during rush hour.  I never got a seat during the first trimester, but as I started to show, some started offering me their seats.

I expect my experiences with a second pregnancy to be quite different because I am living in America now.  Just the prospect of having to find a OB/GYN who is recommended and available to take me in as a patient is overwhelming.  Even with this exciting development, I am still working on the Spring Cleaning Series.  My next step is cleaning out the bathroom, which is a guest post I wrote for Namaste and Eat Cupcakes.  Please drop by and leave a comment!  I will continue the series with organizing the bathroom on Her Life Is Love.

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To the recently pregnant and currently pregnant moms, please advise me on what I should avoid doing and eating as I have forgotten most of the information I read up on from my first pregnancy.  Leave a comment and let me know!

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I Googled Second Infertility and It Scared Me

By on March 29, 2017
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After celebrating the joys of last week, this post is on a more serious note.  I have one beautiful daughter and I’ve always wanted to have three kids, max.  My daughter is already two years old and I haven’t gotten pregnant since having her.  As the months go by and I continue to have my periods, I started to wonder if something is wrong…with me?  My husband?  I started searching Google for answers and came across this term: second infertility.  Do I have second infertility?  I had never heard of this term before.

Disclaimer:  I am no expert on second infertility and cannot help you with any medical questions.  Please direct those to your appropriate care provider.

What is second infertility?

I’m a little frantic now about getting pregnant because I do not want my children to be far apart in age.  By doing the math, even if I get pregnant right this second, my children will be three years apart.  That’s borderline ideal max age difference to me.

Second infertility is when a couple is unable to get pregnant after having had a first pregnancy before.  Sounds unreal, right?  My daughter was conceived really quickly after our marriage, so my husband and I didn’t expect getting pregnant again would be difficult.  I’ve been using a period tracker app to see what days I’m supposed to be most fertile and used that data to try and make that baby magic happen.

Five months and still nothing.  I’m starting to really worry something is up.  I’m still in my 20’s, the last legs of it, but still.  Google’s search results and my monthly results have scared me.

Thankfully, I came across this informative post on Mom.me with information from a physician assistant in an OB practice.  The author writes about six points, but I just want to highlight two that helped me.

50% get pregnant within six months and 85% make a baby within one year

Human fertility is inefficient

First off, a woman usually has only one egg available for fertilization every one month.  Finding the right timing for getting pregnant isn’t easy.  In fact, it’s a 1 in 4 chance of getting pregnant if you are a young healthy couple with no other issues AND you get the timing right.  So, if a group of young healthy couples consistently try to get pregnant with these stats, only 50% get pregnant within six months and 85% make a baby within one year.  I’m only five months in, everyone.

You’re Probably Not Infertile

Second, if you are in the 15% of young healthy couples that didn’t get pregnant within a year, you can’t write yourself off as infertile.  Apparently, there are very few medical diagnoses that actually cause infertility.  It is more likely there are other barriers that are making it difficult for you to get pregnant.    Again, you’d want to consult your care provider in this case.  Is that reassuring news?

Either way, I want that second baby now!  I mean, I have so many great books to read future baby.  So, I’m going to make use of some handy gadgets like an at-home ovulation testing kit and see if we can make that timing right.  Wish me luck, guys!

Have you had a long waiting period before getting pregnant with your next child?

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